To me, it seems unfair and ridiculous. All the recent sex I've had, has ended far short of my getting anything like an orgasm. In many cases, I've barely just gotten partially erect, not fully hard on, which might take further time and stimulation.
But then I pause for a few seconds, which is only natural for a number of reasons, my partner has taken it as an "that my thing for now signal" and rolls off me and starts getting ready to leave.
Sometimes, she has had some kind of orgasm herself first. (Something I though was difficult for most women to achieve. I thought the problem with most heterosex was men getting off quick, and women barely getting started, and often not even getting orgasms because men got off to quickly. But it seems two women I've known of Catholic upbringing have gotten orgasms very quickly, then they want to leave. I had further come to believe that women were fine with multiple orgasms, but that doesn't seem to have been the case with these women. In other words, I fear the church has programmed them not to enjoy long leisurely sex. Sex is job for procreation, building up the congregation, not for people to enjoy much or use as a means of getting to know one another better through long lasting sessions--which I believe is the natural way. Of course, these women would disagree that this was their intent. They might say they love sex. They just have a particular expectation about how it should be. In particular, that men's pushing should continue until it's over, then it's over, and it's over quickly.)
My approach to masturbation, anyway, since I haven't been able to get sex good enough for me to orgasm for decades, is lengthy. I spend at least an hour to get to the point of orgasm. Sometimes it takes two hours. Once it took 6 hours, but more often I give up after an hour or two.
And needless to say, it isn't all high intensity (though sometimes, it nearly all is). Sometimes there are fumbles, where I think of something fearful for a second then I lose it. It then may take just a few seconds, or as long as fifteen minutes, to get started again (or it might derail the whole thing...but that's rare).
Fearful thoughts are probably the most common cause of gaps. But also there can be limits of physical endurance, and other minor physical pains, which almost always are quickly recoverable.
But it seems many women want to impose a no-gaps standard. In order to satisfy such a requirement, some of Ron Hubbard's treatments might be necessary. Perhaps this is why they were so popular in Hollywood, to enable a vision of sex without gaps.
But then I pause for a few seconds, which is only natural for a number of reasons, my partner has taken it as an "that my thing for now signal" and rolls off me and starts getting ready to leave.
Sometimes, she has had some kind of orgasm herself first. (Something I though was difficult for most women to achieve. I thought the problem with most heterosex was men getting off quick, and women barely getting started, and often not even getting orgasms because men got off to quickly. But it seems two women I've known of Catholic upbringing have gotten orgasms very quickly, then they want to leave. I had further come to believe that women were fine with multiple orgasms, but that doesn't seem to have been the case with these women. In other words, I fear the church has programmed them not to enjoy long leisurely sex. Sex is job for procreation, building up the congregation, not for people to enjoy much or use as a means of getting to know one another better through long lasting sessions--which I believe is the natural way. Of course, these women would disagree that this was their intent. They might say they love sex. They just have a particular expectation about how it should be. In particular, that men's pushing should continue until it's over, then it's over, and it's over quickly.)
My approach to masturbation, anyway, since I haven't been able to get sex good enough for me to orgasm for decades, is lengthy. I spend at least an hour to get to the point of orgasm. Sometimes it takes two hours. Once it took 6 hours, but more often I give up after an hour or two.
And needless to say, it isn't all high intensity (though sometimes, it nearly all is). Sometimes there are fumbles, where I think of something fearful for a second then I lose it. It then may take just a few seconds, or as long as fifteen minutes, to get started again (or it might derail the whole thing...but that's rare).
Fearful thoughts are probably the most common cause of gaps. But also there can be limits of physical endurance, and other minor physical pains, which almost always are quickly recoverable.
But it seems many women want to impose a no-gaps standard. In order to satisfy such a requirement, some of Ron Hubbard's treatments might be necessary. Perhaps this is why they were so popular in Hollywood, to enable a vision of sex without gaps.
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