It would seem that my friend, especially, lives by the basic principle that suffering toil is essential. Some might go further and see it as rewarded in heaven, etc. My friend sees duty, obligation. Play, which our relationship represents, comes after all other things, if at all.
I concede to some trappings of this way of thinking. But it seems a better principle to me that time is all there is. Each moment is for the savoring, not the saving. Every waking moment is part of the play, the dance of life.
I hope she can leave the church of perpetual responsibility. Not only does play come last, but in some sense there is no play. Even in play there is the responsiblity to shape others toward the most responsible behavior, such as getting things done earlier. The shaping of behavior seems to have higher priority than actually just having as much as possible time together--which is always good time.
There has always been some momentary relaxation from perpetual responsibility. But I wonder if that hasn't been decreasing.
Believe me, good things do not often, or even usually, come from suffering of any kind, and that of perpetual responsibility. Any and all paid work is first and foremost working for existing wealth and property. If one could be replaced by another to do the same job, then hold a job may be keeping someone else who could do the same job unemployed. Insisting on being a wage slave (as opposed to marriage serf) drives down the wages of labor, and reduces the time we have to spend with each other to almost nothing.
Turn back now. Start living every day. See the benefits in the present.
One easy way would be to give up the myth of independence. Instead, choose the best dependency. Choose me.
I concede to some trappings of this way of thinking. But it seems a better principle to me that time is all there is. Each moment is for the savoring, not the saving. Every waking moment is part of the play, the dance of life.
I hope she can leave the church of perpetual responsibility. Not only does play come last, but in some sense there is no play. Even in play there is the responsiblity to shape others toward the most responsible behavior, such as getting things done earlier. The shaping of behavior seems to have higher priority than actually just having as much as possible time together--which is always good time.
There has always been some momentary relaxation from perpetual responsibility. But I wonder if that hasn't been decreasing.
Believe me, good things do not often, or even usually, come from suffering of any kind, and that of perpetual responsibility. Any and all paid work is first and foremost working for existing wealth and property. If one could be replaced by another to do the same job, then hold a job may be keeping someone else who could do the same job unemployed. Insisting on being a wage slave (as opposed to marriage serf) drives down the wages of labor, and reduces the time we have to spend with each other to almost nothing.
Turn back now. Start living every day. See the benefits in the present.
One easy way would be to give up the myth of independence. Instead, choose the best dependency. Choose me.
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