A first tiny step toward equality would be this: women initiating as much as men. The fact that males almost always are the initiators of new conversations, dates, relationships, etc., means precisely this: females are the rulers. The first rule of negotiation is that the one who goes first loses. Which should obvious from evolutionary biology as well.
I'm not holding my breath waiting for this to change. Practice makes perfect it is often said. But it should also be said that perfect would take as much time as a hundred monkeys writing all the works of Shakespeare by random keystrokes.
Fear of rejection is often seen as a small thing, easily overcome by any good male. Well people who suggest this haven't a clue as to how arrogant and cruel females can often be in rejection.
I'd like to see females walk a mile in my life history of 100,000 rejection. Few may have been seriously hurtful, but those are the ones always felt each new time.
Though I would like to considered an honest kind of pickup artist anyway, and I have had a few successes, the dominant message of pickup artist material is this: suck it up. Ignore all the basic unfairness in gender. Ignore the fear and pain, and keep trundling forwards.
At least two generations of so called feminists have added insult to injury by painting the picture backwards. Only the beautiful late Ellen Willis gets it mostly right with her Peo Sex feminism, now becoming an ignored footnote in the history of these mostly misandric movements.
The unreservedly positive regard of the original neoliberal anti porn and anti sex feminist Gloria Steinem makes me very angry. Ellen Willis wrote the best putdowns of Ms Steinem decades ago, and I have tried to continue the tradition, but nobody but me seems to be aware of it all.
